When Treatment Changes How You Look

Tell your child about a change in how you will look before it happens, and that you are still the same person.

A two-minute read, three things to try, for children under 18.

Where to start

Tell your child about hair loss, tiredness or a scar before it happens.
Explain any tube, dressing or equipment at home, and what it is for.
Tell your child you are still the same person, however you look.
If they stay upset, or start keeping away from you, talk to their GP or the school.

The rest of the tip, and why it works, is in the library.

Sources

Macmillan Cancer Support, Talking to children and teenagers when an adult has cancer (booklet, fifth edition, 2024), pages 33 and 46 to 49; MND Association, For parents and guardians affected by MND (2026); Marie Curie, Supporting a child or teenager when someone has a terminal illness (2025); NHS, Recovering from a stroke (2024)

It goes with

When a Parent Is Seriously Ill. For parents whose own serious illness, or the other parent’s, has changed life at home.
The Conversations Parents Avoid. For parents who need to tell their child something hard and don’t know how to start.

The first chapter you open here is free to read in full.

Free on this subject

Serious illness in the family. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
Family stress. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.

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Published by Kensington Square Therapy. Company No. 16707111. Written by therapists registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS). This page is not therapy, and not a substitute for professional support. The full library is at theparentbook.com.