When the Bullying Follows Her Home on Her Phone

Tell her now, before anything happens, that you will never take her phone away because she told you something.

A two-minute read, three things to try, for ages 13 to 18.

Where to start

Tell her now that you will never take her phone away because she told you something.
There is one exception to keeping a record. If anyone has shared a nude or semi-nude picture of her, or of anyone under 18, never view, copy, print, share, store or save it, or ask a child to send it to you. A screenshot is a copy. Get advice from the school’s safeguarding lead before deleting anything. If the picture is of her, she can report it herself to have it taken down. Report Remove (from Childline and the IWF). Online at https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/online-mobile-safety/report-remove/. If an adult is involved, or someone is threatening to share a picture of her or asking for money, report it to the police. CEOP (the police’s online child protection command). Report at https://www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre/.
If she seems low, stops eating or sleeping, or can’t face school, talk to your GP. If she has hurt herself, or talks about hurting herself or not wanting to be alive, act that day: ask the surgery for an urgent appointment, and if it is closed, use the crisis line. England, Scotland and Wales: call 111 and choose the mental-health option. Northern Ireland: call Lifeline on 0808 808 8000. Help is free, confidential and available at any hour. Whoever answers may share information to arrange care or keep someone safe.
If she is in danger or badly hurt, or may have taken too much of a medicine, get help straight away, even if she seems well. Call 999. Or go to your nearest A&E. Help is free and available at any hour.

The rest of the tip, with more to try and why it works, is in the library.

It goes with

When Your Child Is Being Bullied. For parents whose child has just told them she is being bullied.
Your Child’s Online World. For parents who have seen something on their child’s phone that they can’t unsee.

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Bullying. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
Online safety. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.

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