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Low Mood, Drink and Drugs at Sixteen and Seventeen

For parents who can’t tell whether what they’re seeing at sixteen or seventeen is normal late adolescence or something that needs help.

A 27-minute read · Published 28 October 2026 · Reviewed by the practice

Sixteen and seventeen are hard ages to read. Your teenager sleeps until lunchtime at the weekend and can’t get to sleep on a school night. Their door is shut, their temper is short, and their friends know far more about them than you do. There are parties, and at some of them there’s drink, and sometimes drugs. Most of this is what growing up looks like at this age, and it’s normal to wonder, now and then, whether it’s something more.

The difficulty is that from the outside the two can look alike. A teenager who is depressed can look a lot like one who is tired and fed up, and one who drinks to get through the week can look like one who is enjoying their first year of parties. This chapter is about telling them apart, and what to do if you think it’s something more: how to talk to your teenager, including about what they have taken; how the GP and CAMHS work at this age, and what changes at eighteen; and how to look after yourself while it’s going on. If your child is younger, When Your Child Has Gone Flat covers low mood from nine to sixteen.

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Mental health problems are common at this age, and more common than they were. In the NHS’s 2023 survey of young people in England, almost one in four seventeen to nineteen year olds had a probable mental disorder, against one in ten in 2017. The survey’s measure covers emotions, behaviour, relationships, hyperactivity and concentration, so this isn’t a figure for depression alone.

Low mood, or depression

YoungMinds, the young people’s mental health charity, puts the difference between low mood and depression simply. With low mood, a young person usually starts to feel better within a few days or weeks, and their mood may lift after a small change in their life. With depression, the low feelings last longer, and they make it hard to enjoy things the young person normally would.

NICE’s guideline on depression in children and young people is more exact. For a diagnosis, it says, the symptoms must have been there for at least two weeks, for most of each day, and the key signs are a low mood or a loss of pleasure in most activities.

The NHS’s list of signs in children and young people starts with a sadness or low mood that doesn’t go away. It goes on to being irritable or grumpy all the time, losing interest in things they used to enjoy, being tired a lot of the time, sleeping badly or more than usual, finding it hard to concentrate, seeing less of friends and family, eating less than usual or overeating, talking about feeling guilty or worthless, and feeling empty or numb. Thoughts of suicide or self-harm, and self-harm itself, are on the list too. Sadness is only one item on it. A seventeen-year-old who is irritable with everyone, all the time, can be depressed without ever looking sad. NICE notes that depression often comes with anxiety; if what you’re seeing looks more like worry than low mood, Anxiety, by Age covers the late teens.

Much of that list overlaps with the normal business of being sixteen. A teenager who is growing up pulls away from their parents in particular, and goes on seeing friends. A teenager who is struggling often pulls away from friends as well, and loses interest in things they used to enjoy. When They Stop Talking to You and When Your Child Has Gone Flat draw the same line.

Three questions help. How long has it been going on: days, or weeks? How much of their day does it take up? And how much of their life has it reached: their sleep, their eating, their work, their friends, the things they used to love? If your teenager has been like this for more than a fortnight, or you’re worried at any point, it’s time to see the GP, and to tell the doctor about any change in their sleep or their appetite. You don’t need to be sure it’s depression first.

The NHS page on depression in children and young people adds a sentence that matters for the rest of this chapter: “Older children who are depressed may misuse drugs or alcohol.”

Drinking and drugs at this age

It helps to know what is common. In the 2023 NHS survey, almost half of seventeen to twenty-two year olds had drunk alcohol on at least one day in the previous week. In the Office for National Statistics’ survey of England and Wales for the year to March 2025, about one in seven sixteen to twenty-four year olds said they had taken a drug in the last year, most often cannabis, which means most had taken none. FRANK, the government’s drugs advice service, reminds parents that trying drugs or alcohol often goes no further.

The law and the medical advice are worth knowing exactly. It’s against the law to sell alcohol to anyone under eighteen anywhere in the UK. In England and Wales, at sixteen or seventeen your teenager can drink, but not buy, beer, wine or cider with a meal in a pub or restaurant if an adult is with them. Scotland’s rules are slightly different, and in Northern Ireland a teenager under eighteen may not drink in a pub or restaurant at all. The Chief Medical Officer for England advised in 2009 that an alcohol-free childhood is the healthiest and best option, that drinking even at fifteen or older can be hazardous to health, and that not drinking is the healthiest option for young people. Alcohol and the First Parties goes through the first parties with drink, spiking, and what the evidence says about giving a teenager alcohol at home.

To tell whether your teenager’s drinking has become a problem, look at how and why they drink. YoungMinds’ guide for parents lists the signs, for drugs as well as drink: drinking or taking drugs often, or alone; getting very drunk; needing more to feel the effect; finding it hard to stop once they’ve started; secrecy, or money or alcohol going missing; and feeling they need it to cope. It also lists a change much like those in the section above: losing interest in the things they used to do, including hobbies or schoolwork.

FRANK adds a caution: “just because your child is acting differently, doesn’t mean they’re on drugs or drinking alcohol.” The signs are a reason to ask, and they aren’t proof.

When the two go together

Low mood and drinking or drug use often turn up together at this age, and each can make the other worse.

Some young people drink or take drugs because they’re struggling. YoungMinds describes it as “a way of numbing or distracting from difficult feelings or thoughts”, and warns that whatever relief it brings at first, it can make things worse over time.

It works the other way too. FRANK’s page on cannabis says it can disturb sleep and make people depressed, and can raise the chance of developing an illness like schizophrenia, especially for someone with a family history of mental illness who starts using it as a teenager. YoungMinds notes research suggesting that young people who use cannabis may be at greater risk of psychosis.

If your teenager seems to see or hear things that aren’t there, or to believe things that can’t be true, act that day: ask the surgery for an urgent appointment, and if it is closed, use the 111 route under “If you need help right now”, at the foot of this page. When You Think Your Teenager Is Using Cannabis sets out what else to watch for and when to act the same day, and When You Find a Vape covers vapes, including those sold as cannabis.

In the 2023 NHS survey, seventeen to twenty-two year olds with a probable mental disorder were more likely than others to have used cannabis or other drugs in the previous week: about one in five, against fewer than one in twenty-five. A survey like this can’t say which came first. It does show the two go together often enough that, if you see one, it’s worth asking about the other, and NICE tells clinicians assessing a young person for depression always to ask the young person, and their parents, about alcohol and drug use.

If your teenager takes medication for their mental health, YoungMinds warns that taking drugs with some medications can cause serious side effects. Ask whoever prescribed it what your teenager needs to know, and make sure your teenager hears it from the prescriber too.

The question to keep asking yourself is what the drinking is for. Getting very drunk at a party is a reason for a conversation the next day, which the next section goes through. Drinking alone in their room on a Sunday afternoon, to feel less, is a reason to see the GP.

Talking to your teenager

Start with what you’ve noticed, not what you’ve concluded, and keep it short: You’ve seemed really flat for a few weeks, and you haven’t mentioned your friends much. You’re not in trouble. I just want to know how you are. Pick a time when neither of you is in a hurry and, if you can, somewhere you’re side by side, on a walk or doing a job together.

Your teenager may say they’re fine. Don’t argue, and don’t drop it: All right. I’ll keep asking, because I love you. It doesn’t have to be now. On average, teenage boys and young men are less likely than girls to talk about how they feel, or to ask for help themselves. If you have a son, raise it yourself, and raise it more than once. If your child does talk, listen more than you speak, and don’t rush to fix things; YoungMinds’ guide for parents gives the same advice. Thank them for telling you.

If they won’t talk to you, help them talk to someone else: an aunt, a tutor, the school counsellor, the GP. FRANK suggests the same for drink and drugs, and names a school nurse, a GP, a youth worker or a specialist service.

If you’re worried about how low your teenager is, ask them plainly: Are you thinking about suicide? Many parents fear the question will put the idea in their child’s head. Studies of asking have not found that it does, and talking about it may even reduce suicidal thoughts. If your teenager says no, thank them for answering and tell them they can always come back to you with it; if they still seem very low, see the GP all the same. If they say yes, stay as steady as you can, thank them for telling you, and do not promise to keep it a secret. Tell them you are going to get them some help, and that they are not in trouble. Then act that day, as the box near the top of this page sets out. Until help is in place, stay close to them, and keep all medicines, including ones bought over the counter, and any alcohol, out of easy reach.

The conversation about what they have taken is a different one, and the first rule is about timing. FRANK’s advice to parents is not to confront a young person while they’re high or drunk. If your teenager comes home drunk, ask whether they are hurt or have taken anything, and leave the rest of the conversation until the next day. If your teenager is very drunk, stay with them and don’t leave them to sleep it off alone: they could be sick while drowsy and choke. If you think they have alcohol poisoning, call for emergency help. Call 999. If you are worried about them, use the box near the top of this page.

Talk the next day, when they have slept and eaten, and start with why you’re asking: I want to talk about last night. I’m not going to shout. I need to know what you had, because I need to know you’re safe. Ask what they had, roughly how much, and whether they mixed it with anything; FRANK is plain that mixing drugs is always risky. Don’t accuse them, and don’t make assumptions about what they know or what they have done; FRANK advises both. If they name a drug, read FRANK’s page on it before you go further. It’s written for young people, and it gives you facts you can talk about together. Then ask the question that matters most here: Was it the party, or was it to get away from how you’ve been feeling? If the answer is that it helps them get through, that is the pattern to take to the GP.

Spiking can look like being very drunk. If you suspect it, get medical help early and report it to the police. The person who was spiked is never to blame. If your teenager tells you someone did something sexual to them while your teenager was drunk, or an older person is giving them alcohol, stay calm, thank them for telling you, don’t promise to keep it secret, and act that day. A sexual assault referral centre can give medical care and emergency contraception, and take forensic samples, whether or not the assault is reported to the police. It is best to go as soon as possible, and the NHS website finds the nearest centre. If your child is being asked to hold or sell drugs, or has money, a phone or older friends you can’t explain, someone may be exploiting them, and exploited children are victims first. Don’t confront the people involved yourself. If you think someone may be hurting your child, act that day, using the routes under “If you need help right now”, at the foot of this page; if that person may live with your child, in either home, go straight to children’s social care or the police.

Then agree what happens next time. YoungMinds advises parents to make it clear that their teenager can always call them from a situation that feels unsafe. Say it so your teenager believes it: If you’re ever somewhere and it’s gone wrong, ring me. I’ll come and get you, and we’ll talk about it the next day, not that night. Tell them what FRANK tells parents: if anyone needs urgent help after drinking or taking drugs, call an ambulance and tell the crew everything you know. If your child worries that calling would get a friend into trouble, FRANK says that in most circumstances ambulance crews and hospital staff won’t tell the police. The activities A plan for the party and A word that means “come and get me” help you agree this before it’s needed.

None of this means you stop having rules. With You, a charity offering free, confidential help with drugs, alcohol and mental health in England and Scotland, advises parents to keep boundaries, so that your teenager knows your help to keep them safe isn’t the same as going along with it. What doesn’t work is a lecture. FRANK’s advice is to stay calm, listen carefully and keep the conversation two-way, and both FRANK and With You warn that being heavy-handed will probably backfire.

The GP, CAMHS and turning eighteen

Go to the GP if your teenager’s low mood has lasted more than a fortnight, if they seem to be drinking or using drugs to cope, or if you’re worried at any point, and tell the doctor about any change in their sleep or their appetite. The quick tip When Your Seventeen-Year-Old Is Low is the short version of this section.

At sixteen your teenager is entitled to consent to their own treatment and, like an adult, is presumed able to make their own decisions about it. They can go on their own. The NHS tells young people they can ask the GP not to tell their parents, and that what they say to mental health services stays confidential unless the service is worried about their safety or someone else’s. So ask your teenager how they want to do it: you can book it, go in with them, wait outside or stay at home. When Your Teenager Wants to See the GP Without You covers what stays private and how you can still help. Whichever they choose, write down what you’ve noticed, with rough dates, for them to take in. If they won’t go, the NHS says you can speak to a GP on their behalf. Without your teenager’s agreement, the GP may not be able to tell you what was said, but can always listen to what you’ve seen. Where it is needed to protect your teenager from serious harm, doctors should share information even without that agreement, and the General Medical Council’s guidance gives self-harm as an example. The activity Their first appointment on their own helps a teenager get ready to go alone.

Prepare your teenager for one part of it. NICE says clinicians assessing a young person for depression should always ask about alcohol and drug use, bullying or abuse, self-harm and thoughts of suicide, and should offer them the chance to talk about those in private first. Tell your teenager that beforehand, so they aren’t caught off guard, and tell them that honest answers are how they get the right help. Tell the GP about any drinking or drug use yourself, too, because it can change what the doctor suggests.

What happens next depends on how severe it is. For mild depression, the doctor may suggest what NICE calls watchful waiting, with another assessment normally within two weeks, and then, if it hasn’t lifted, a choice of talking therapy for about two to three months, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), either digital or in a group. For moderate or severe depression, NICE recommends individual CBT for at least three months. Medication may be added, either from the start alongside therapy or if therapy hasn’t helped after four to six sessions, and the medicine NICE recommends at this age is fluoxetine. NICE says it should be offered only alongside a talking therapy, and only after an assessment by a child and adolescent psychiatrist. Your teenager will be watched closely in the first weeks: tell the prescriber the same day about any new hostility or self-harm, or any talk of not wanting to be alive. If you cannot reach the prescriber, use the 111 route under “If you need help right now”, at the foot of this page; if your teenager is in immediate danger, call 999.

The GP can refer your child to CAMHS, which the NHS website now calls children and young people’s mental health services. So can a teacher, a school nurse or a social worker, and some services take referrals from young people themselves. There may be a wait. If things change or get worse while you wait, the NHS’s advice is to ring or email the service and tell them, and to get urgent help if your teenager needs it; the routes are at the foot of this page.

For drink and drugs, YoungMinds says every local area has its own drug and alcohol service, and the GP is usually the first step. You can also contact the national drugs advice service quoted throughout this chapter: its website has a section for parents and will find your local service. FRANK, 0300 123 6600. Text 82111. Phone 24 hours, every day; texts and emails are answered, with no reply time given. In England and Scotland, With You runs services mainly for eleven to eighteen year olds, sometimes up to twenty-four, and supports their families too. Think about telling the school or college as well, ideally with your teenager’s agreement: whoever leads on safeguarding there can help, and it is worth asking first how the school handles drug use.

If your teenager boards, house staff see them every day and may notice a change before you do. Ask the school how it would tell you and who leads on safeguarding in the sixth form, and agree with your teenager what you’ll share with the school.

Children’s mental health services are usually for under-eighteens, though some go on to twenty-five. The NHS says the move to adult services usually happens around eighteen but can happen at any point between sixteen and twenty-five, and that your child’s service should talk to them about it at least six months before anything changes. NICE’s guideline is more specific. A seventeen-year-old recovering from a first episode of depression should normally stay with their CAMHS team until they’re ready to be discharged, even after they turn eighteen. If their symptoms aren’t clearing, or they have had depression more than once, they should normally be transferred to adult services. If they have recovered, they wouldn’t normally be referred on, unless they’re thought to be at high risk of it coming back.

The plan for the move should say whether and how your teenager wants you involved, so ask them about that before the planning meeting. From eighteen, services may not be able to tell you about your child’s care without their consent; When Your Child Is Eighteen and the Doctors Cannot Tell You Everything explains what doctors can and cannot say, and what you can always tell them. In England, at eighteen your teenager can also refer themselves to NHS Talking Therapies for anxiety and depression, and in some areas they can from sixteen.

When you are frightened for your teenager

You may feel two pulls. One is to clamp down: search your teenager’s room, read their messages, stop them going out. The other is to look away, because they’re nearly an adult and it’s their life. Between the two, keep the rules you had, and keep talking to them.

You’ll feel things you don’t show your child: fear, anger about the drinking, guilt that you didn’t see it sooner. Say them to another adult. If there are two of you, agree what you think before either of you talks to your teenager, so that your teenager hears one answer, and the same applies across two homes.

Look at your own drinking too. It doesn’t need to be perfect, but the Chief Medical Officer’s guidance notes that parents’ own drinking can influence their children’s, and your teenager is watching how the adults around them get through a hard week. If your own history with alcohol, drugs or depression is part of why this frightens you, When You Are Not All Right is written for you.

Keep one thing between you that has nothing to do with any of this: a programme you watch together, a walk, food your child likes. If everything you say to them is about their mood or their drinking, they have one more reason to avoid you. For what helps a low teenager at home, day to day, the section What helps at home in When Your Child Has Gone Flat applies at this age too.

At different ages

If your teenager has just turned sixteen. If they have just finished GCSEs, the summer may bring more parties and less supervision than they have had before. Have the conversation about drink and drugs before you need it, and agree what happens if something goes wrong: that they can ring you, and that anyone who is unwell gets help. Alcohol and the First Parties and the activity A plan for the party go through both.

If your teenager is seventeen. Low mood can hide behind work. A teenager who does nothing but work, and has stopped seeing friends, may be struggling however good their marks are; the quick tip The Child Who Looks Fine is about this teenager. If they’re under CAMHS, ask this year what will happen at eighteen.

If your teenager is eighteen, or nearly. From eighteen they’re an adult in law, and services will talk to them first. If they’re leaving home, make sure they know where to get help where they’re going, from the GP they register with there and their university’s wellbeing service, and that whoever is treating them now knows where they’ll be. If your child is eighteen or over and talks of not wanting to be alive, help them ask their own surgery for an urgent appointment or, if it is closed, use the 111 route under “If you need help right now”, at the foot of this page; if they are in immediate danger, call 999. You can tell the GP or the university what you have seen even when neither can tell you anything back.

If you can’t tell which it is

Sixteen to eighteen are the last years in which you have much say over your teenager’s care, and the first in which they have most of it. So when your teenager tells you something hard, make sure it leads to help and not to a row.

A lot of what worries parents at this age passes. Some of it needs help, and because there can be a wait for that help, it’s better to ask early. If you can’t tell which you’re looking at, you don’t have to decide on your own: the GP and your teenager’s school are there for that question.

NOTES

  1. NHS. Worried about your teenager?, reviewed 14 March 2023. Many of the things a parent notices, such as changing moods, can often be put down to normal teenage behaviour.
  2. NHS England. Mental Health of Children and Young People in England, 2023: wave 4 follow up to the 2017 survey, 21 November 2023. Part 1: 23.3 per cent of 17 to 19 year olds had a probable mental disorder in 2023, against 10.1 per cent in 2017. The measure is based on the Strengths and Difficulties Questionnaire and is not a count of depression. Part 2: 45.2 per cent of 17 to 22 year olds had drunk alcohol on at least one day in the previous seven days; 19.5 per cent of those with a probable mental disorder had used cannabis or other drugs in the previous seven days, against 3.6 per cent of those unlikely to have one.
  3. YoungMinds. Depression and low mood, parents’ guide, reviewed May 2024. Low mood and depression; listening before advising.
  4. National Institute for Health and Care Excellence. Depression in children and young people: identification and management (NG134), 2019. Context: the two-week threshold, the key signs, and anxiety often accompanying depression. Recommendations 1.1.12 (asking the young person and their parents about alcohol and drug use, bullying or abuse, self-harm and ideas about suicide, with the chance to discuss them in private first), 1.5.1 and 1.5.7 (watchful waiting, then therapies for mild depression that continues), 1.6.5, 1.6.7, 1.6.10, 1.6.14 and 1.6.15 (individual CBT; fluoxetine, only alongside a psychological therapy and after assessment by a child and adolescent psychiatrist), 1.6.18 (close monitoring for suicidal behaviour, self-harm or hostility, especially at the start, and urgent contact with the prescriber if any appear), and 1.7.1 to 1.7.4 (the move to adult services).
  5. NHS. Symptoms: Depression in adults, reviewed 5 July 2023. Seeing a GP after symptoms of depression for most of the day, every day, for more than two weeks; with NICE’s two weeks (note 4), the ground for the chapter’s “more than a fortnight”.
  6. NHS. Depression in children and young people, reviewed 16 May 2023. The signs, including being irritable or grumpy all the time; “Older children who are depressed may misuse drugs or alcohol”; making a GP appointment.
  7. Office for National Statistics. Drug misuse in England and Wales: year ending March 2025, 11 December 2025. Crime Survey for England and Wales, people aged 16 to 24, use in the last year: any drug 15.1 per cent; cannabis 12.5; powder cocaine 2.3; ketamine 2.0; ecstasy 1.9; nitrous oxide 1.3. Households only, and likely to underestimate.
  8. FRANK. Advice for parents & carers: acting differently is not proof; trying drugs or alcohol often goes no further; not confronting a young person who is high or drunk; not accusing, and not making assumptions about what they know or do; another adult to talk to; staying calm, keeping the conversation two-way, and heavy-handedness backfiring; an ambulance, and telling the crew everything. Cannabis: sleep, low mood, schizophrenia; mixing. What to do in an emergency: what ambulance crews and hospital staff tell the police.
  9. Chief Medical Officer for England (Sir Liam Donaldson). Guidance on the consumption of alcohol by children and young people. Department of Health, December 2009. An alcohol-free childhood (statement 1); that drinking, even at fifteen or older, can be hazardous to health, and that not drinking is the healthiest option for young people (statement 3); parents’ own drinking. GOV.UK. Alcohol and young people: the law in England and Wales, including the meal rule at sixteen and seventeen. nidirect. Alcohol and the law, updated 27 August 2025: Northern Ireland. Licensing (Scotland) Act 2005, explanatory notes, sections 102, 105 and 106: Scotland.
  10. YoungMinds. Drugs and alcohol, parents’ guide, reviewed February 2024. Signs; numbing or distracting from difficult feelings; cannabis and psychosis; medication; making it clear your teenager can call you; local services and the GP.
  11. With You. Advice for parents: what to do if you’re worried about a child’s drug use: keeping boundaries; heavy-handedness. Services for young people: mainly 11 to 18, sometimes to 24, and families, in England and Scotland.
  12. NHS. Consent to treatment: children and young people, reviewed 8 December 2022.
  13. NHS, all reviewed 19 July 2023: Where to get mental health support (a young person can ask the GP not to tell their parents; a parent can speak to a GP on a child’s behalf), Children and young people’s mental health services (who can refer; ages; confidentiality unless someone’s safety is at risk), Waiting for mental health support and Moving on to adult mental health services.
  14. NHS. Talking therapies, reviewed 5 November 2025. Self-referral at 18, or 16 in some areas.
  15. NHS. Alcohol poisoning, reviewed 4 June 2026. The signs of alcohol poisoning, staying with someone who is very drunk, and when to call 999.
  16. Dazzi, T., Gribble, R., Wessely, S. and Fear, N. T. “Does asking about suicide and related behaviours induce suicidal ideation? What is the evidence?” Psychological Medicine, 2014, 44(16), 3361 to 3363. None of the studies reviewed found that asking about suicide increased suicidal thinking, and talking about it may reduce it.
  17. Royal College of Psychiatrists. “Depression in children and young people”. 2025. NHS England. “Mental Health of Children and Young People in England, 2023: wave 4 follow up, Part 3: Education, services and support”. 2023. Boys and young men being less likely, on average, to talk about how they feel or to seek help themselves.
  18. NHS. Symptoms: Psychosis, reviewed 5 September 2023 (its review was due 5 September 2026). Hallucinations, where someone sees or hears things that do not exist outside their mind, and delusions, an unshakeable belief in something untrue. The same-day sentence is the reviewed wording of the live tip When You Think Your Teenager Is Using Cannabis, with the chapter’s 111 route in place of its route token.
  19. Home Office. Spiking: advice and support, GOV.UK, published 21 December 2023 (the page’s metadata gives an update of 20 October 2026). The signs of spiking, among them confusion, vomiting, poor co-ordination, memory loss and blackouts; getting medical help as soon as possible; reporting it to the police; that it is not the fault of the person spiked. The sentences are the reviewed wording of Alcohol and the First Parties.
  20. Home Office. Criminal exploitation of children and vulnerable adults: county lines, GOV.UK, updated 20 October 2023. Children groomed into criminal activity are victims first and foremost; unexplained money, clothes or phones, and relationships with older people, are among the signs. The sentences are the reviewed wording of When You Think Your Teenager Is Using Cannabis.
  21. General Medical Council. 0 to 18 years: guidance for all doctors, principles of confidentiality, guidance updated 13 December 2024: paragraph 49, disclosing information without consent where that is necessary to protect a child or young person from risk of death or serious harm, with self-harm among its examples. Confidentiality: good practice in handling patient information, using and disclosing patient information for direct care, no date shown: paragraph 39, a doctor should not refuse, on grounds of confidentiality, to listen to the concerns of someone close to the patient.

Where to go further

NHS, Advice for parents The NHS’s pages for parents in one place, including the two this chapter leans on most: the signs of depression in children and young people, and what to do if you’re worried about your teenager. A sensible first read before you see the GP.

FRANK, Advice for parents & carers Careful about what the signs of drug use can and can’t tell you, and practical about the conversation. FRANK’s A to Z of drugs is written for young people and worth reading before you talk to your teenager.

With You, Advice for parents A charity offering free, confidential help with drugs, alcohol and mental health in England and Scotland, with services for young people that support their families too.

Who else can help

NHS: mental health advice for parents and carers

The NHS’s pages for parents, in one place: anxiety, low mood, anger, bereavement, arguments with teenagers, exam stress, and how to talk about feelings.

nhs.uk/mental-health/children-and-young-adults/advice-for-parents

FRANK

The government’s confidential drugs advice line, open twenty-four hours, with an A to Z of drugs, a section for parents who are worried about their child, and a finder for local services.

0300 123 6600 · Phone 24 hours, every day; texts and emails are answered, with no reply time given

talktofrank.com

With You

Free, confidential webchat with trained recovery workers, guidance for people worried about someone else, and young people’s drug and alcohol services in many areas.

Webchat with trained recovery workers, seven days a week

wearewithyou.org.uk

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