Agree the year’s special days with the other parent in advance, so your child is never the one who has to choose.
A two-minute read, three things to try, for ages 5 to 13.
Where to start
Agree the year’s special days with the other parent in advance, and write them down.
Tell your child the plan, and don’t ask them to choose.
Plan your own day for the year your child is away.
The rest of the tip, and why it works, is in the library.
Sources
Gingerbread, Child contact arrangements; Action for Children, Co-parenting at Christmas
It goes with
When Parents Separate.For parents in the middle of a separation who are watching closely to see how their child is coping.
The first chapter you open here is free to read in full.
Free on this subject
Separation and divorce.What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
Co-parenting.What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
Published by Kensington Square Therapy. Company No. 16707111. Written by therapists registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS). This page is not therapy, and not a substitute for professional support. The full library is at theparentbook.com.