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The Second Child, and the First
When a new baby arrives, every first child wants to know whether they are still the one.
A two-minute read, three things to try, for children under 9.
Where to start
- Carve out ten exclusive minutes a day with the first child.
- Say often: “I love you. You’re the same to me as last week.”
- Skip the gift-from-the-baby and the dressing-up as the helper.
The rest of the tip, and why it works, is in the library.
Underlying framework
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, Siblings Without Rivalry; the architecture of sibling adjustment in the first year
It goes with
- Siblings and the Fights That Aren’t Fair. For parents whose children keep finding new ways to fall out with each other.
The first chapter you open here is free to read in full.
Free on this subject
- Sibling conflict. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
- Attachment. What to do first, what helps, and who else can help. Free to read and to print.
Published by Kensington Square Therapy. Company No. 16707111. Written by therapists registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS). This page is not therapy, and not a substitute for professional support. The full library is at theparentbook.com.