Their online world

The sheet

Two ways to find out what your child does online, on their terms: once a week they show you three things, and now and then they teach you their game. On the back, what cannot wait.

Pocket card · A4, four cards to cut, two sides · Two pages · PDF, 66 KB

How it helps

You can’t protect your child in a world you never see. Being shown it on their terms, once a week and without comment, keeps you in touch with what they do online, and makes you someone they can come to when something there goes wrong.

How to use it

Print on both sides, flipping on the long edge, and cut out the cards. Read both sides before you start: the front says which things can’t wait, and the back says what to do.
Once a week, side by side in a room you share, ask your child to show you three things: the funniest, the weirdest, and one they think you should see. They hold the device and choose.
Watch each one to the end without comment, and thank them. If one is a sexual image of anyone under eighteen, stop watching straight away, and see the back.
Now and then, ask your child to teach you their game, and be the beginner.

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The first chapter you open here is free to read in full, with its sheets. This one goes with Your Child’s Online World and What Screen Time Actually Is.

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